“Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel”- Eleanor Brown
Shortly after I finished yesterday’s blog, ‘The Best Advice Anyone Ever Gave Me’, I reached out to a few friends and asked them to tell me about what self- care means to them.
One of my friends of whom I’ve nicknamed, “the wise one”, shared that she grew up in a house with 6 kids and it was normal for her to see her Mom always tired and in need of self-care. Therefore, she set the expectation with her Husband before they married and outlined how important self- care was to her. Once they had their Daughter, she explained to her that her play dates were equally as important as Momma’s girl’s night outs and date nights. My friend believes her daughter now understands what commitment to self-care looks like and knows that, as she grows, she too will put her best foot forward for her own self-care.
Another friend responded by saying that she stopped feeling guilty for making time to work out. She allows herself one hour a day for exercise. She is much happier, and her kids know it. It is important to her to model to her children that taking care of herself allows her to take better care of her family.
A third friend reported that she tries to do three things for herself every morning when she wakes up. She enjoys meditation, stretching, reading something inspirational, praying, practicing yoga or visualizing positive things. She has about fifteen different self-care things to pull from.
As for myself, I can say without a doubt that self- care has not only changed my life, but it has given me a “happy life”. My little guy was almost six when I finally decided to do something for me and made the announcement, “I’ve decided to take a class”. I can still remember the look on each of my family member’s faces. I’m sure they were thinking something like, “we don’t do very well when you are in the bathroom, much less leave the house for 3-4 hours”. I quickly realized that taking the class brought me joy and rejuvenated me. It was amazing to watch how much happier my children and husband were as a result. My Son’s (who has been affected by Autism) behavior even improved as well!
This might be a great time for a quick confession. Today I am addicted to self- care. I exercise, read, meditate, practice yoga, take classes, schedule a weekly date night, take girls trips, play Bunco, go to movies with my friends, get pedicures, and bask in infrared saunas. It might be sinful, but I’m pleased to say that I’m one very happy Momma.
The internet is full of articles about self-care and how it promotes a healthy weight. There are several theories as to why. Could it be because it makes you more productive, happier, less stressed, less anxious, and brings comfort? I know I have shed a few pounds since I’ve been practicing self-care. I found this quote I love and feel is relevant:
“Instead of indulging in comfort food, indulge in comfort meditation, comfort journaling, comfort walking, comfort talking, comfort manicures, comfort reading, comfort yoga, comfort hugging.” – Karen Salmansohn
According to Self magazine, more than half of the population of Millennial woman made self -care their New Year’s Resolution for 2018! I know we are more than halfway through the year, but it’s never too late for a resolution. What’s your self -care resolution?
This photo popped up as a Facebook memory from a few years ago today! This date night with my Husband, Tony, was one of my first planned self- care activities.