“When solving problems, dig at the roots instead of just hacking at the leaves.” – Anthony J. D’Angelo
Today I awoke baffled and began reflecting on two blogs I wrote a few days ago titled Why and the Pursuit of Ketosis- Day 4. After reading those blogs, my inner Sales Manager would have hired me for the position of Successful Dieter in a New York Minute. So, why haven’t I lost the weight?
I quickly decided that there must be more to this journey than just eating a specific number of calories daily, exercising, and weighing myself. Hmmm. Exasperated by this sixteen-year journey, nothing came to mind. I thought to myself, “What question would I ask if I was interviewing a potential new hiree? I know, I would ask them to walk me through the times in their life when they had gained substantial weight”.
The Freshmen 32:
Well, there was this one time in college…… I walked into my Dad’s house expecting to go for a bike ride or breakfast. Instead, he was standing very firmly at the top of the stairs.
“You are going to break up with that guy today,” he said.
I had been dating my high school-turned-college boyfriend for well over three years when my Dad caught wind that he had done something most Dad’s wouldn’t approve of.
Within a second we were in a standoff. My Dad’s forehead was so red and veins I didn’t know he had were popping out. And then he calmly said, “If you continue to so much as talk to him, you will not see another dime of my money and that means no college tuition”.
A week later the letter saying my college tuition hadn’t been paid came in the mail. I had days to come up with the money or I would need to withdraw from the semester!
I made an appointment with the financial aid office. Being the only child of a man who had the means to easily pay my tuition, didn’t help my case with the financial aid office. Luckily the financial aid counselor had a big heart and found a way to help me out with a fraction of my tuition.
Within days I had three jobs. I had already committed to rushing a sorority and continued full throttle with that only missing one rush event. And as for my grades, 15 credits and just shy of a 4.0.
Ask me about my weight – I gained 32 pounds in one semester!
And The A Word That Took My Weight Loss Efforts Down:
Autism rolled into my life like a hurricane. My Son looked so sickly, had a huge distended stomach, didn’t poop for days, and lost speech. To make matters worse, he didn’t sleep for more than two hours at a time, had extreme sensory issues, and the impulsive and aggressive behavior was dangerous and scary.. Everywhere I went, I felt like people were judging my parenting skills. Unfortunately, my Husband and I were not seeing eye to eye on our parenting approaches. I have never been so stressed out in my entire life.
I gained 60 pounds in less than a year and a half!
And This One Time When I Had “Balance” In My Life:
And then there was this one time about a year and a half ago, my life was, dare I say, in balance. I walked an hour a day, made it to my yoga mat at least twice a week, lifted weights 2-3 times a week, journaled about 1500 calories a day on myfitnesspal and dropped substantial unwanted pounds.
Then, I accepted a job I thought sounded fun and easy enough. I would be working for a great company and with a dynamic team. The position itself wasn’t stressful but there were always a lot of balls in the air, and a demanding travel and social schedule. I enjoyed the position but it definitely threw my family out of balance and life at home got really chaotic.
Ask me how many pounds I gained in less than 4 months – 37!
There is a common theme in all of these situations and I’m sure she is part of the root cause of my weight gain. I’ll introduce you to her in my next blog, but be prepared, I’m next to positive you won’t like her one bit.